Ok, here is the thing. If you ask and she or he says yes, you will be together for years to come. During those years there will be an opportunity (at least once a year) to be reminded of the time you asked them to marry you.
So, don’t stuff it up or you will pay for it with decades of recriminations and embarassment. Make sure your potential life partner is in agreement with you over what constitutes a romantic moment. If they want violins and roses while you are happy with glam rock on the ipod and a bag of chips, you will suffer my friend.
Make a romantic day of it and make sure you haven’t had an arguement for at least 12 hours before you propose (although this does not mean proposing first thing in the morning is your best option).
Don’t be too hasty to propose on a specific ocassion that you have mentally prepared for. If the time isn’t right, wait.
However, if they are looking happy and the setting is romantic and you aren’t peein g yourself with nerves, go for it.
Saying that you are sorry is important. You should wait long enough that your partner knows you have thought seriously about the issue in question.
If you say sorry, mean it. If you don’t really mean it, then don’t say it.
You should definitely leave a physically abusive relationship. If you are getting hit, punched, kicked, bitten or slapped walk away today.
You will probably be at school with the first girl you ask out. The big timing tip is to do it when your other friends are nowhere around and the girl’s friends are also absent.
Trust me on this. Never ask a girl out in front of an audience. Your friends may be cool most of the time, but when you are opening yourself up for a little emotional vulnerability (yes it will hurt a little if she says ‘no’) then it is best not to have your friends (or her friends) all standing around you.
Don’t start dating until you are ready. Your parents may think that you are too young to date and you should consider their feelings and what life at home might be like if you disobeyed them.
Think about who you want to date. Are they really mature enough? Are they too mature and likely to want to move the relationship forward faster than you are comfortable with?
Relax, you have a lifetime ahead of you. Don’t get stressed about it and it will sort itself out in the long run.
If you can answer all these questions and still fell happy about the idea of dating, go ahead and have fun. Be careful, move at a pace you are comfortable with and don’t think for one second that the first person you date will be the last.
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